From a profile of Steven Goldstein, head of Garden State Equality, New Jersey’s premier gay rights organization:

He meets with opponents to explain why marriage is important to gay people. He plans to dine soon with John Tomicki, who heads the New Jersey Coalition to Preserve and Protect Marriage, which opposes extending family rights to same-sex couples.

“He can have a warm side to him,” Tomicki said of Goldstein. “(Two weeks ago), he came up and gave me a big hug. I gave him a big hug back. I then whispered into his ear, ‘For goodness sake, don’t kiss me.’ He laughed. He has a good sense of humor.”

People often make jokes to cover up their own biases.

But hey, you know those gay activists. They’re always trying to kiss straight people! They just can’t control themselves when there are new people around to recruit!

Wait a minute… which of the two men brought up kissing, again?