I’ve read the Prop 8 ruling, which was of course announced this afternoon.
And you know what? I found it boring.
This is not the first court to rule that a ban on marriage for same-sex couples violates the Constitution. Courts in Massachusetts, Connecticut, Iowa, Hawaii, and, of course, California, have issued similar rulings before, and judges in New York and New Jersey have put forth the same arguments in dissenting opinions. The arguments for marriage equality have been put forth over and over again. How many different ways are there of stating the obvious?
And that is why the arguments are boring — because they’re so obvious. Of course we deserve the right to marry. How can anyone not understand this?
And yet a large but steadily shrinking portion of the country doesn’t seem to get it. Or just plain refuses to.
It’s not really about marriage. It’s about thinking that gay people are just not as good as straight people.
To quote Judge Walker:
In the absence of a rational basis, what remains of proponents’ case is an inference, amply supported by evidence in the record, that Proposition 8 was premised on the belief that same-sex couples simply are not as good as opposite-sex couples.
Not everyone who opposes marriage equality is a gay-hater. Not all of them spew out lies like Maggie Gallagher, who must be a really unhappy and unloved person to spend so much time trying to prevent other people from being happy.
Many people who oppose marriage equality say they have no problem with gay people. They may even say they like gay people. They may even say they like me. They may have gay friends or gay workers and think that they’re perfectly nice people.
Hey, they have such great fashion sense and they’re so entertaining to watch! But, you know, they don’t deserve the same rights that we have. Because, I like them and all, but gay couples are still not as good as real couples. Two men or two women together just aren’t as real or good as a man and woman’s relationship.
I like gay people, but I sure hope my son or daughter doesn’t turn out to be one!
They don’t realize that this doesn’t make any sense, and that it is in fact contradictory. If you oppose marriage equality, then you oppose gay people. If you think, even in a small part of your brain, that gay people are not as good as straight people, then you oppose gay people.
Don’t patronize me. If you don’t think I deserve equal rights, then you have no respect for me, and you have no respect for gay people. Don’t pretend that you do. I don’t want to be friends with you.
So yes, this decision was boring. Nothing new here. Just the same old, crystal clear, logical, obvious arguments.
Even if this case gets to the Supreme Court and we lose — come on, Anthony Kennedy, we’re counting on you! — Judge Walker’s decision will still be right. People need to read it, so they can understand the obvious, self-evident truths.
Stating the obvious is not always interesting. But it is often necessary.